We are constantly looking for constants, but the only certainty is change
Humanity is facing ever-increasing challenges, globally, locally and individually. This has an impact on the well being of many. As we experience a lack of connection to community, family and especially ourselves, the question arises – how does change come about?
But what is it that needs changing? Do we change our job, our looks, our health, our mind, their mind, our heart, what?
Change is a natural part of our personal evolution; we are continuously evolving and growing as a person from childhood to mature adult and beyond. We go through many rites of passages, which foster our unfolding and along the way we experience many things. Unfortunately we like to categorise them as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and we try to have more of the one and try to avoid the other. As we do this, we adopt many unhelpful beliefs and get stuck in patterns of behaviour, which fundamentally are nothing but an acting-out of these unhelpful beliefs.
The human condition is vitalised by a complex blend of dynamics between the physical reality (including our body), our psychological make up and an acknowledgment of the inner spiritual reality. In order to experience a joyous human wholeness, none of these realities can be excluded. What seems to matter greatly is how we respond when changes occur in our inner and outer world. And this freedom to choose our response determines our experience.
What do you choose?
M. Scott Peck once wrote:
“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.“
So in every crisis there is a gift… but it isn’t only crisis that propels us towards change, C.G. Jung wrote of an inborn inner drive towards ‘wholeness’. This may be why some of us are drawn to being consciously engaged in an on-going process of personal transformation.
But first there must be a desire for change. Not just a desire as in ‘I don’t like this’! And no, it isn’t always easy; it does take inner ‘work’, dedication, courage (heart) and commitment! Change may even require a complete paradigm shift, letting go of your story and who you think you are. It has often been symbolised by the image of the chrysalis transforming into a butterfly, a metaphor of shedding the old in order to make room for new beauty, even though it was all you – all along.
Marianne Williamson wrote :
“The only way to gain power in a world that is moving too fast is to learn to slow down. And the only way to spread one’s influence wide is to learn to go deep. The world we want for ourselves and our children will not emerge from electronic speed but rather from a spiritual stillness that takes root in our souls. Then, and only then, will we create a world that reflects the heart instead of shattering it.“
And Ghandi famously said ‘Be the change you wish to see in the world’.
My feeling is that by labelling quotes like this as a cliché, we are avoiding their magnificent truth!
Avoidance, oh yes, it plays a big part. We wish to keep the status quo, avoid unpleasantness and pain and we have been known to say that truth hurts. But in reality it is only the resistance to truth that hurts – in itself truth just is.
And if you have difficulties in facing that truth, it is ok to ask for help…